she looks like a boxer. LOL.

I hope she has learned a lesson.

photo taken Wednesday, 1.4.12

the story: the kids were playing with Legos at school.  One of her classmates had one, which she took from him.  He wanted it back, so a tug-of-war ensued.  She didn't like that, so she pushed him.  He didn't like it, so he clocked her in the face with a toy train.  End fight.

On the days Mike picks her up from school, I usually call or text him for a report of how Keira did that day.  When I didn't hear from him by 6pm, which is the latest you can pick up your kid before late fees kick in, I called him.  So it goes, he just finished a conference with Keira's teacher.

I felt horrible.  Not so much that Keira was hurt, but more so because my child started a "fight" at school.  She probably wouldn't have ended up with a black eye if she just knew how to share.  I felt like this was a reflection of me as a parent, and that I wasn't doing a good job teaching her right from wrong.

In a small way, I felt like Keira deserved it.  Ever since she was little, she has acted like the mother hen, the one in charge.  It was even a family joke that she was going to be the boss.  And until recently, she always got her way when playing with her cousins Matthew (he is 5 months older than Keira) and Jacob (he is 2 months younger).  Once the boys started to nudge back, that's when the screaming and crying started.

By no means am I (or Mike) condoning fighting as a way to get things done, but once in a while Keira needs to learn that this is simply not her world.  On drives to school, I always tell Keira what I expect of her that day at school and probably say it 20 more times.  So this week has been a lot of "you need to be nice to your friends" and "if you need to go potty, tell Miss Amalia".

I swear I'm a broken record.

Comments

[Jacqueline]

She still looks very adorable with that shiner! 1stborns are usually the headstrong ones... And also way tougher than they look!!

[Corinne]

Aww, poor girly! Hope she did learn her lesson although her starting the fight is not a reflection of you or Mike. I worry that Mattie might be the opposite and that he may be shy or get picked on in the future.